Thursday, April 25, 2013

3 months old

This post has been a long time coming. Obviously the boys and Evelyn keep me VERY busy. So busy in fact, that I've intended to write a post for an entire week with no success!

The boys turned 3 months old the other day. Holy moly where did my tiny little newborns go??? The spend much more time awake now, they love to see the world around them. They smile... A lot! The even get out some giggles occasionally. Although they have excellent head control, they show no interest I. Tummy time or rolling over. That's ok though cause their adjusted age puts them at only 2 months old.

They are finally getting over their coughs and colds and other miscellaneous illnesses that come with cold wet winters.

Speaking of winters, this one has dragged on and on! It's April 25th
And we just now are getting warm enough weather that we can be outside, as in, today is the first day I've been able to get out for a walk because its finally 70 degrees!

An observation:

People are fascinated when they see twins. Let me explain.

I go places, like the mall, and people turn their heads 180 degrees trying to get a peek at the twins. I hear "awww look there's twins!" Over and over. I don't mind, I find it an amusing game to count how many times I hear it.

Every once in awhile I get stopped, like at the park today. I get the same battery of questions each time: "are they twins?" "How old are they?" "Are they identical?" "Did you do infertility treatments?" "How big were you?" "Was it miserable?" "Were they early?" "is it hard?" To name a few. Again, I don't mind. I love the opportunity to brag about all my kids, just like every other parent does.

Yes (no I have the gestational time period of a mouse...), 3 months, we don't know, no, huge, no, 4 weeks, yes....

The thing I can't stand are the negative comments: "you sure have your hands full." (It doesn't bother me when they are simply stating a fact, but when they have a negative tone about it that's when it bothers me.), "I couldn't do it." And my favorite that I heard at Walmart yesterday: "I sure hope that doesn't happen to me." (Ok what if it does? What will you do about it? And seriously I'm not cursed by having twins, I'm blessed and you would be too!) I usually just respond with "it's a blessing, it's a lot of work, it's stressful and exhausting. It's worth every second of sleepless nights and an incredible journey to experience."

It's funny to me, when I would take Evelyn out, to the store or park, very few people would say much of anything besides "how old is she?". Take the twins out somewhere and people are full of comments and questions.

When I do get into a conversation about the twins, often I'll mention Gabriel, the journey we travelled, and quickly people realize how much of a blessing the twins are to us (and to other twin parents out there). Quickly their tune changes from multiples being a curse and a problem into something amazing.

When conversation gets long, I spend many breaths correcting people's misconceptions about twins. No the guy doesn't have anything to do with the conception of their twins (although new research is saying its possible for identicals.), no identical twins are not genetic - they are spontaneous, no we don't know if ours are identical or fraternal, and no they can't always guarantee one way or the other unless they share sac or placenta. No they don't automatically test them (its semi expensive to do so) and, No not all twins are automatically a c-section even though ours were. Amongst other - and some very strange - preconceived notions about twins.

I don't get mad, it's not people's fault they are misinformed. But please keep your negativity about having multiples to yourself, I don't want to have to defend myself every time I have an interaction with a mom to singletons.

Interactions with other moms of multiples is a different experience all together. It's like a club you join when you have more than one baby at a time. There's always a huge smile exchanged before a wave and very different conversation commences.

Today I met a girl and a we of fraternal twin girls - she is the nanny. Even though she's the nanny and not the mom, the conversation was much the same, she was so proud to be the nanny to twins, she talked about them as if they were her own.

Having twins is a whole new ball game. It's completely different from having a single baby, not in a bad way, on a fantastic way.



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